Anger, regret, frustration, sadness, relief and guilt are just a sampling of the many emotions often experienced by an individual who is going through a divorce. All of these, and a host of others, are normal and nothing can truly prepare an individual for the emotional and mental roller coaster that is divorce.

While every couple’s situation and divorce is unique, there are some factors that seem inherit to the divorce process. For example, during and in the wake of a divorce, parents often struggle to keep their negative emotions about an ex-spouse in check. While it can be incredibly difficult to remain civil with an ex while the wounds of a split are so fresh, for the sake of shared children, it’s critical.

While going through the actual divorce process, many individuals are surprised by how time-consuming the process becomes. This is especially the case when exes aren’t able to come to a mutual resolution regarding matters related to child custody, spousal support and the division of assets.

Even in cases where an individual wants to divorce, it doesn’t mean he or she won’t experience conflicting emotions. Second guessing one’s decision to file for divorce may be exacerbated as one experiences confusion and frustration as divorce negotiations drag on.

Divorce brings many changes, many of which may be initially scary or difficult. When faced with changes to one’s living arrangements, financial situation and social activity; it’s normal to feel overwhelmed and act out in ways that may not be mature or healthy. It’s often, therefore, a good idea to seek help from a professional counselor who has experience helping individuals going through a divorce.

It’s also important to hire a divorce attorney who is compassionate and understands the challenges divorce brings. A legal professional can provide information and advice about the divorce process as well as tips for post-divorce success in matters related to finances and child custody.

Source: The Huffington Post, “9 Things You Can Expect During Your Divorce,” Elinor Robin, PhD, July 10, 2014